Today I’m sick. Just really bad allergy problems but I feel awful. When I’m sick, it’s hard to not really really really miss the boy because I’m already down. Being sick though made this memory come back to me.
Zachary never like loud environments. When he was at daycare for the six months out of his life he ever attended one, they would test the alarms and it would always upset him. He didn’t like OU football games, pep assemblies, etc. Anything loud and chaotic was not his thing (except for the Fun. concert, that was an exception)!
One year, Jonathan bought Zachary and himself front row seats to the Harlem Globetrotters. Zachary was so super excited to go before they got there. When they got there, Jonathan could see him getting quieter and quieter as the event went on. When it was over, he was more than ready to come home.
When they got home, we thought he had just gotten overwhelmed. Well turns out, we ended up at the emergency room that night as he started having problems breathing. Zachary was never officially diagnosed with asthma but was labeled an “airway reactive” kid. We made several trips to the ER or Urgent Care for breathing treatments before he grew out of it. He actually had pneumonia and ended up in bed for several days.
When he was a kid, if he got overwhelmed at school, he would end up in Nurse Karen’s office to call us. It got to where we had to tell him he couldn’t go to the nurse unless he was throwing up or she called because he had a fever. I think he was just so incredibly bright that his mind went a million miles a minute and it was easy to get overwhelmed and have a hard time processing everything. As he got older, he outgrew the going to the nurse phase but he still had a lot of days that he just didn’t want to go to school.
I guess we all have those days. Today is one of those for me. I don’t want to participate in the day and just want to go back to bed. Today, I know how Zachary felt and I miss him more than ever and just want to sleep.
This is one our favorite pictures of Zachary. I loved the faux hawk days.
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